If you want to change your life, learn to view your limitations as friends, not enemies.
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If you want to change your life, learn to view your limitations as friends, not enemies.
I am not aligned with being or becoming limitless. What do I look like, God???? What I am aligned with is the abundance that loving and being human through my limitations creates.
The energy of abundance is not overflow, it is not waste. It is enough. Our limitations are portals into finding enough in our own lives, no matter the circumstances.
I was born in the wrong body (i’m transgender), I was the “sheltered kid” growing up, and when I was 16, I suffered a severe spinal injury that almost left me paralyzed. These have been and/or created some of my biggest felt limitations aside from my own ego.
In a society that constantly reaffirms the value in more, better, faster, more, more, more, it is easy to judge our own limitations, feel powerless because of them, or think that changing means getting rid of them.
But in reality, change doesn’t happen by shedding our limitations. That’s just one of the many possible outcomes of changing.
The deepest and most lasting change I have experienced in life has always come in partnership with my limitations. And the deepest changes to my limitations have never come from judging myself for them, making fun of them, denying them, avoiding them, or trying to “fix” them or get something from them instead of being in relationship with them.
As long as we are human, we will experience limitation. Our bodies are so precious because they are so fragile. Life is beautiful for how quickly it can be over. Time is valuable because we only get so much of it.
Maybe the best kind of change starts when we gaze into the eyes of our limitations like a soulmate and say, “thank you, I love you. I’m so glad you’re here.” Maybe that’s the big permission slip we’ve all been waiting for. And maybe that’s only the beginning. Maybe your limitations have a few words of wisdom to share. Maybe they’re tired and want to be released from their duties. Maybe they are new in town and are just as confused as you are. Who knows? Have you asked them recently?
Try it:
1. Identify something about you or your life that you feel limited by.
2. Give that something a nickname just for this moment. Take a deep breath.
3. Say "thank you, I love you, [NAME]" and give your limitation a big hug
What comes up for you?That’s the sauce, don’t get lost in it.